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I Thought I Found the Perfect Guy — But Then I Realized His Fatal Flaw
An ego isn’t the only thing unattractive in a man.
Once upon a time, I worked with quite the stellar fella. From my outsider’s perspective, I thought he had it all: intellect, a sense of humor, a good work ethic, the ability to socialize in any situation — not to mention a face and a smile that would have charmed almost any girl out there.
When our work lives bled over into more personal waters, I thought I’d found someone I could really connect with. It almost felt like finding a confidante, and somehow I found myself opening up more and more to him. It was too easy to spill out everything — the good and the bad — in the face of his understanding demeanor.
I don’t think he judged me, not once, for anything I shared with him. I tend to be an over-sharer when I get close to a person, but he didn’t make me feel like a bother. I felt I could come to him with any problem and be assured that he would give me the dignity of being heard.
It was nice — while it lasted.
Let’s be real: I’ve driven people away before. I wouldn’t have been surprised if that had been the pathway for this relationship. Why? It seemed like he did all the listening while doing nothing to bridge the gap between us and share…
