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I Have No Relationship Capital, and I’m Probably Going to End Up Alone Because of It
Relationships thrive on give-and-take, so what do you do when you have little to give?
Sometimes I feel like meeting new people is much how the job interview process goes — where you have to lay out your best traits on the table, gush about yourself as tastefully as possible, and try to hide any flaw or tear in the fabric.
I’ve gotten to the point that I feel like it’s just question after question. “Oh, what do you do for a living? What do you like to do for fun? What’s your sign so I can Google if we’re cosmic matches for each other?” Ad nauseum.
I imagine dating apps have taken away some of the pressure that comes with first meetings — you’d like to think that exchanging messages for a few weeks will at least engender some sort of safe familiarity — but I don’t have experience when it comes to the dating app tango.
What I do know is that, up until recently, I had nothing really to offer on the table as far as “currency” for a budding relationship. I had done only part-time work, I ended up majoring in college for something I actually care little about, and nothing about me seemed to have that “wow” factor to get someone interested in me or my life.
